A Big Committment
To wed or not to get hitched ? That is the question. It ne’er had been the inquiry. It had been ‘When to marry?’ not ‘why to marry’. For years young women were expected and put pressure on themselves to find a mate young, marry and start up home with babies and a hamster, and dedicate their lives to running a well run household. Possibly because adult females have been freed from what were once their conventional purposes, that wedlock is no longer a top prority and without doubt not the only road to go along. In Actually umpteen people- both men and women- categorically hate the idea of marriage, and can’t conceive of looking into a loved one’s face and promising without question to spend the rest of their lives with them until someone dies. In many ways it’s a shame, because weddings can be such gay events- especially when they feature a fine-looking wedding dress and sky lanterns. But, marriages can be devastating, financially and emotionally harmful, and the most lonely things of all. Though being in a ill-starred partnership is also hugely isolating, somehow with the marriage label, it’s even worse. Friends and family expect more of a pair when they are formally married and have supposedly spent so much cash on their wedding day. They are expected to be happy or to at least try their damndest to be so. As a result of this perceived outside insistency, many couples feel they have to put on a front and hide their real emotions. The reason why there were a greater amount marriages or why marriages survived a few generations ago is because couples had no choice but to keep ploughing on with their relationship. This is advantageous in some respects, but in others, it is very wasteful. Yes there were more matrimonies, but there were also many more desperately wretched ones.
